In the book of Colossians, we’re reminded about what’s important - glorifying God. “And whatsoever ye do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God and the Father by him” Colossians 3:17.

​We’re to glorify God in all that we do. This also means that, if we’re doing something that isn’t glorifying to God, we shouldn’t do that (no matter what it is). Usually, this is sin, but it’s not always sin that we have to stop doing. Sometimes it’s something that doesn’t please God, yet probably wouldn’t be classified as a sin.

This is a type of sacrifice that God calls us to do. We sacrifice, not because it’s a chore, but because we love the God who has saved us.

What are things that you are being called to sacrifice in order to please God? How are you going to be held accountable for this, so that you continue to reject what isn’t good and hold on to what is good (”Prove all things; hold fast that which is good” 1 Thessalonians 5:21)?

What if I were to tell you that the prayer of Jabez wasn’t a selfish prayer, even though it may seem selfish on the surface?

First, before we get into this, you may be wondering, “What is the prayer of Jabez?” or “Who is Jabez?” or “The name Jabez sounds familiar, but I can’t quite figure out why.”

Who was Jabez?

Little is known about Jabez. He appears in between Aharhel and Chelub in the Bible in 1 Chronicles 4, leaving many to believe that he may be Aharhel’s son. When reading this genealogy section, it’s so easy to almost miss him even being mentioned, let alone the prayer and Jabez’s short history found in the Bible.

All that’s really mentioned of him in the Bible is 2 verses (but we’ll look at 3 verses so there’s a little context). 1 Chronicles 4:8-10:

“8 And Coz begat Anub, and Zobebah, and the families of Aharhel the son of Harum.
9 And Jabez was more honourable than his brethren: and his mother called his name Jabez, saying, Because I bare him with sorrow.
10 And Jabez called on the God of Israel, saying, ‘Oh that thou wouldest bless me indeed, and enlarge my coast, and that thine hand might be with me, and that thou wouldest keep me from evil, that it may not grieve me!’ And God granted him that which he requested.”

From this passage, we can see that the prayer is focused on Jabez. It almost seems like something that we can’t pray.

While it isn’t selfish, that doesn’t mean we need to pray this word-for-word, or that it is somehow the perfect prayer to pray.

Where do you know this prayer from? Likely you have heard of or read Bruce Wilkinson’s book The Prayer of Jabez, and that’s where a lot of Christians have heard of it, in addition to seeing it by reading through the Bible.

Here are four reasons that it isn’t selfish:

1. We don’t know that this is all he prayed that time.
2. Jabez was asking for responsibility from God by asking his coast to be enlarged.
3. Jabez was considered honorable.
4. God gave Jabez what he asked for in his prayer.

​Here is more detail on each reason:
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1. The Bible doesn’t say that this is all Jabez prayed during this prayer, so we don’t even know the whole context of his prayer. Therefore, we can’t call it selfish.
2. The context of this verse (and other commentaries) can lead us to believe that “coast” was dealing with responsibilities (other versions read “territory”). If this is the case, then it definitely isn’t selfish, but rather Jabez asking God to help further God’s work on the earth (and the Bible says that God granted the prayer, as well).
3. Verse 9 says that Jabez was more honorable than his brothers. Why is this in the passage? Perhaps to give context to who Jabez was. He was honorable, so his prayer was an outpouring of his heart. John 9:31 says, “Now we know that God heareth not sinners: but if any man be a worshipper of God, and doeth his will, him he heareth.” If Jabez was honorable (and cried out to God this prayer), we have enough context to be able to understand that Jabez worshipped God and was wanting to do God’s will.
4. The end of verse 10 says, “And God granted him that which he requested.” God answered Jabez’s prayer. This is an important note because James 1:5-8 says, “If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all men liberally, and upbraideth not; and it shall be given him. But let him ask in faith, nothing wavering. For he that wavereth is like a wave of the sea driven with the wind and tossed. For let not that man think that he shall receive any thing of the Lord. A double minded man is unstable in all his ways.”
   If God answered the request, and God grants prayers of those who do His will (as seen in point 3) and to those who have unwavering faith (as seen in James 1), we can be assured that Jabez wasn’t selfish in his prayer.

So, can we be assured that God honors prayers like this? Jabez told God that he was ready for growth, and God honored his prayer. Based on this short, little-known passage, we can be sure that this prayer isn’t selfish, as long as you aren’t being selfish (James 4:3: “Ye ask, and receive not, because ye ask amiss, that ye may consume it upon your lusts.”).
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We can take a lot from this passage. One thing we can get from it is to be bold in our prayer. Will you pray today with Jabez-like faith? If you can’t do that yet, remember James 1:5: ““If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all men liberally, and upbraideth not; and it shall be given him.”

“Fear not, for I am with you; Be not dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you, Yes, I will help you, I will uphold you with My righteous right hand” Isaiah 41:10.

Rumor has it that the Bible has the phrase, “Do not fear,” 365 times (the same number of days in most years). Whether it’s true or not, it’s still a great way to look at it. We shouldn’t fear, daily.

God says in His Word that if we fear, we can’t expect to get success from God. Instead of fearing, ask God for wisdom in any situation you are facing.

James 1:5-7: If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him. But let him ask in faith, with no doubting, for he who doubts is like a wave of the sea driven and tossed by the wind. For let not that man suppose that he will receive anything from the Lord.”

Fear comes out of doubt, and doubt was basically the very first original sin. The serpent said in Genesis 3:1: "Did God really say ‘You must not eat from any tree in the garden?'" Eve started to doubt, and when that doubt happened, she believed the serpent over God. Therefore, that seed of doubt caused her to lose her faith in God, which caused her to choose to eat of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil.

Doubt (and therefore, by extension, fear) is a faith-killer. Our faith in God shouldn’t waver, so we should put our trust in God rather than putting our trust in man. God’s Word holds true.

From October 17, 2022 - October 21, 2022, we are hosting a prayer week for children's homes all across Romania.

We'd love for you to participate in it as well, from wherever you are.  We'll send you the prayer prompts each weekday next week so you can pray for children's homes around Romania.  You can register for the email prompts below.

“I cried unto God with my voice, even unto God with my voice; and he gave ear unto me” Psalm 77:1.

​What a privilege we have to make our requests known unto the King.  Not the King of a country, but even better - the King of the world!

When a King would give audience, it would be said that the King gave ear.  In other words, he would listen to his subjects and decide whether he would grant their request or not.  This was done in the throne room.  His subjects would wait alongside other subjects until it was their turn to speak with the King.

However, in this case, we get full access to the King of the world.  We don’t have to wait in line, we don’t have to wait for Him to get in the throne room - He’s already there, waiting to listen to us.
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This is what the King giving ear to us means.  He listens to our needs and cares for us.

Psalm 90:1-2:  "1 LORD, thou hast been our dwelling place in all generations.  Before the mountains were brought forth, or ever thou hadst formed the earth and the world, even from everlasting to everlasting, thou art God."

Whenever you have trouble, go to God for help and guidance.
He always was, is, and will be.  He knows everything that will ever happen, and nothing takes Him by surprise.

"And forgive us our debts, as we forgive our debtors" Matthew 6:12.

Why are we to forgive others?  Because God forgave us.

Unforgiveness is like a yeast.  It grows, and grows, and grows, until you don't recognize yourself anymore.  The only remedy is forgiveness.  This is the only way you can heal.  Don't worry about their reaction to your forgiveness.

"But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses" Matthew 6:15.

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